Relax.
Just relax and stay in the present. Don't let worries or frustrations occupy your mind. Forget about your job, your children, or the chores. Hours before the excitement starts, treat yourself with a warm bath or a massage
Turn yourself on.
List the things that turn you on and use them to jump-start your arousal. Visualize a hot sexual encounter, replay a scene from a sizzling movie, or imagine that you're with your favourite celebrity-naked. If you need more stimulation, listen to suggestive music or read some erotica.
Take a look.
If you've never seen your genitals, get a mirror. Hold it with one hand while your other hand identifies your sexual parts. Find the clitoris under its protective hood above your vulva; touch your labia, vagina, and anus. Put an anatomical diagram beside you if you don't know what's what.
Let your fingers walk.
Explore your genital anatomy using your fingers. Touch your smooth labia folds, then your hard clitoris. Move back the hood of your clitoris and touch your glans and observe how sensitive it is. Insert a finger in your vagina and feel the different textures as it probes in. Note which parts of your vulva feel great when stimulated.
Play on your own.
Put the mirror away, lie on your back and touch your whole body. Run your hands over your skin, lingering on the areas which feel especially good-such as your breasts and the sides of your thighs. Try different movements on your labia and clitoris: pull, rub, pinch your smooth skin. Note erotic sensations that you feel on your clitoris. Some women prefer rubbing two fingers over their clitoral hood in a circular way; others put their fingertip on both sides of the clitoris and move them side to side.
Feel it.
Get your vibrator and use it in exploration instead of your hands. Try putting it over different parts of your body, such as your genitals, but save your clit for last. Gently put the vibrator's tip on your clitoral hood. If you find the vibration too strong, put a cloth between your skin and the vibrator.
Where are your Kegels?
Gently rock your hips back and forth, while narrowing your PC muscles (those you squeeze when you want to stop urinating) in sync with the movement.
Combine.
Change your vibrator's speed or put some pressure if you want a stronger vibration. If you're moving it, try changing the direction. When you are aroused, stop and then restart the vibration. Your clit is aroused when you "tease" it-when you hold back the stimulation, your body is exhilarated when you resume. If you find it difficult to be aroused, turn off the vibrator longer and relax your muscles. Try using it in a different position - lie on top of it or put it between your legs.
Breathe deep.
Don't hold your breath; but take long, deep breaths. Over time, you can synchronize your breathing to your arousal. When you feel near orgasm, inhale, then exhale at the time of your orgasm, and you'll experience the sexual contraction from your body up to your toes.
Keep it up.
One of the irritating yet weird things about orgasm is that it can feel vague until you're seconds away from getting one. Once you arrive at the moment of no return, your orgasm will sweep you in seconds, and your body will be undergo several contractions.
Go for those multiples.
Vibrators do not get tired - unlike penises and hands. After your first orgasm, put the vibrator away but put it back after several seconds if you want another. You'll be amazed that you can reach one, two, three, four...
Keep trying.
If you are unsuccessful at first, that's okay. Get the vibrator later and try again. Sometimes it can be only after several weeks that your body adapts to it. Learn from each attempt and note which kinds of excitement feel best and use them.
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